My thoughts, Parenting, Personal, Well being

Unschooling Diaries #12 :- Clashing Dates, Evening Cycle Rides, and Apartment Cats…

This has been such a great week, with many ups and downs and twists and turns.

At the start of the week, I had submitted my form for an Ameutur Boxing Championship to be held in Banglore. It was an inter-club tournament and I was so excited, it was going to be a lot of fun. But, here is the plot twist, the boxing tournament was to be held on 1-2 October, but it got postponed to 8-9 October, and I have the State Women Open Chess Championship on those days😔.  I definitely cannot miss it because I already missed the U15 girls one. However, it was fun preparing for the boxing tournament. It has given me motivation to work harder for the next one👍.

Meanwhile I would like to state some things which made me really happy this week. 

  1. Coming home by my cycle in the evening after boxing class


It is a wonderful feeling to return home by cycle in the evening. The air will be blowing in my face, and the weather will be nice and cool. We all agree that two wheelers in the evening is just a different mood. Yes, that time there is a lot of traffic, pollution, and the roads are not good, but sometimes when I get to see a sunset followed by beautiful twilight, I forget all about the rest.

  1. The confidence and fitness boxing has given me

I am so happy and really grateful to my parents for making me join this boxing class. Because it has given me a level of fitness I never had before, and that makes me feel nice and confident.

  1. Feeding my apartment cats

I am glad, my parents don’t keep my schedule very packed and I have time to do a lot of other stuff. Like feeding the cats near my apartment. 

  1. The confidence I have to talk to people now

This week I just noticed how confident I have now become to talk to people. Before (pre-covid) I had literally had no idea how to, if some guest had come or we had gone out, I would just become speechless ( in a literal way). But now when I go to people’s houses I can talk nicely, I can entertain the guests whenever they come. In fact I am hosting a chess meetup at my place tomorrow, and I feel so proud that I have the confidence to host the entire thing on my own now.

This is the second one, we had hosted one more last week also. Don’t forget to tune in to find out what happens tomorrow. 

Please send me a few things that made you too  happy this week, I would love to hear them. 

Parenting, Personal, Well being

Unschooling Diaries #8: Busting the Biggest Homeschooling Myth

The most prominent question that I have been asked when it comes to homeschooling is:- Won’t it impact your social life? And the concern here is understandable since the kid spends a considerable amount of time indoors and has no structured institution to go to. But may I first ask how exactly is this so-called ‘institution’ helping in developing the child’s social skills? Do you meet new people? Is there any real exposure to the outside world? No, they don’t and no there isn’t. 

Homeschooling or Unschooling on the other hand has real outside exposure. The lack of structure or timetable calls for unexpected situations and meeting new people. We learn who to trust and who not to trust. Some social skills that I have learned are:-

  1. I have improved my English
  2. I am not as shy anymore
  3. I can talk to people more openly now
  4. I now know how to dress properly and carry myself
  5. I am more confident

Some things I hope to learn

  1. To be more creative and resourceful
  2. To get over my shyness completely
  3. Be more direct

Meeting the same people every day for years won’t help you learn anything or gain life experiences. But getting out of your comfort zone -which you have to in homeschooling- most certainly will. So what do you think? Don’t you agree that social skills are important and they are in fact completely ignored in school? Please write your thoughts in the comment section below. 

 

Personal, Well being, Writing

Unschooling Diaries #4: I Wrote A Poem!

Bittersweet Life

Oh! When I read a book, I feel a hole in my soul,

The longing for a thrill, a tale full of woe,

A countryside affair, or a tragical romance,

stories of armored knights, happenings in a magical land,


Every day can be an adventure, every difficulty a lesson,

We are delinquents, Slave to our thoughts,

When will we break free the mental prison,

And rise to see the paradise around us,


My experiences make me, my imagination defines me,

When my kingdom crumbles and laurels turn to dust,

Only thing I will remember, only one thing will matter, 

The day I kept the book down and started living it

-Pihu

Personal, Well being

Unschooling Diaries #3: Impermanence

A continuation of the previous post…

Impermanence means inconstant, transient, evanescent, or in simple words ‘everything is constantly changing.’  This is one more thing I have noticed in my time as a homeschooler. Look around you, what do you think will remain forever? Family, Trees, the Earth, oceans, The universe, Nothing.  

And I believe that there would be no reason to live if everything was always the same. Aren’t we already dead then? There is this one question I ask myself all the time: When was the last time you did something for the first time? Gets me always, and the answer is, I simply don’t remember. What is your answer? Tell me please, I am waiting for it like a child waiting for a freshly baked cake to come out from the oven.

Personal, Well being

The Natural Beauty Around Us

Today I wanted to write something other than professional blogs. About something, I have noticed over the past few months. 

We all sit at our work desks or lie in our beds dreaming about camping trips or imagining digging our feet in the wet beach sand. Enjoying the joy of nature. But in thinking of faraway places we overlook the natural beauty around us. 

Just for example – The plants lining the road, a small vein around the window, or even the sunlight have the same magnificence and power of lightning up the human spirit. So, just take a moment to connect and step outside the house, noticing the birds, the sunlight, and all the small things we take for granted in our life. 

  • Benefits of connecting with nature

So, why should we appreciate the environment in the first place? A recently published study shows that spending only 2 hours in a week outdoors benefits health and well-being. A few examples being:-

  1. Lifts Mood and decreases the tendency of depression and anxiety.
  1. Calms the mind and relieves stress by reducing the amount of cortisol. 
  1. Humbles oneself by making us realize there is something a lot bigger and powerful than us.
  1. Taking a small break and looking at the sky, trees, or birds while performing strenuous mental activity, helps revamp, refocus, and relax the mind. 
  1. Reduces high Bp and risk of heart diseases. 
  1. Being in nature 20 minutes per day decreases the chance of falling sick.

Now we know the benefits of nature. So, let us read a few simple tricks which will help you to connect with the flora and fauna in your hustling and bustling city. 

  • Tips to appreciate with the Environment 
  1. Go for a walk
  1. Wake up early
  1. Put some plants
  1. Feed and help stray animals
  1. Adopt a pet
  1. Spend some time in a park 
  1. Volunteer!
  1. Meditate ( Mindfulness plays an important role in appreciating and experiencing our surroundings)

Conclusion

Isn’t taking out time to embrace nature just wonderful? We might not experience the same joy as we would standing on a beach or camping in a forest. But make the best of what is available, right? What do you think?  Please drop your thoughts, suggestions, and what you believe I should write next in the comment section below.